You’re an expert in your industry.
But are you speaking like it?
Fact:
When you speak poorly,
You fail to build authority.
Seniors:
X Don’t see you as an expert.
X Override your insights and decisions.
X Fail to recognize you know what you’re talking about.
You find yourself arguing and defending every opinion.
Even to yourself.
There’s a better way.
Here are 5 ways to speak so you bag that promotion.
1:
ABC
Always Be Calm
In every stressful, panic-inducing situation,
Be the calmest voice in the room.
Stress and panic is “normal”.
Staying calm is extraordinary.
When you’re calm, you inspire others to remain calm.
Pro tip:
Staying calm doesn’t mean your thoughts aren’t speeding at 500 km/hr.
It means presenting calmness for everyone around you.
2:
Respond, don’t react
Everything you see and hear is data.
Your team’s feedback is data.
Your boss’ opinion is data.
But how you react is YOUR choice.
Data should never dictate your reaction.
Learn to respond by taking time to process that data.
3:
Make space for others
Don’t dominate the conversation.
That’s dictatorship, not leadership.
Your opinion is only important if others think it is.
Raise your authority by:
–Asking others for theirs
–Listening with an open mind
–Incorporating different points of view
Pro tip:
If you’re speaking more than 50% of the time in any meeting, pause and reflect.
4:
Own your mistakes
Don’t try to cover up your failures.
Be transparent about mistakes.
Transparency increases respect, trust and authority.
Pro tip:
If someone on your team made a mistake,
Talk to them privately
But take ownership as the leader in public
5:
Speak with true diplomacy
Being diplomatic is not:
X Being fake
X Telling lies
X Backstabbing
True diplomacy is magic:
Bringing together conflicting opinions
Finding common ground
Speaking kindly
Even if someone is wrong, always speak kindly to them.
This improves how others perceive you.
Your authority is a bank account you’re always depositing in.
You never know when you might need to make a withdrawal.
To make your voice count in times of stress,
Make it count at all times.